FORGIVENESS: A Rule in Marital Success



Welcome to Life and Success Management. This week, we are continuing on Success At Home by discussing one key ingredient: forgiveness.
Forgiveness is an act of willingly letting go a hurt caused you or someone you care about by someone, not holding unto a wrong done to you.
No matter how kind your spouse is, you will be hurt some times and even very hurt at other times. The mistake to make at such times is to believe the person that caused you pain just revealed his or her real nature (forgetting the love and kindness shown you in the past) or think you are better than the person. We are all work in progress; we are all strong only by the grace of God and WE CAN ALL FORGIVE our spouses if we are willing to. If you think you can’t, God is there to help you, so you can.
Forgiveness does not downplay the significance of the hurt; it only reveals how important the relationship is to you.
Forgiveness does not mean you should not protect yourself from further hurts by resolving underlying issues or even relocating if you have to—depending on the nature of the hurt (a repeated physical abuse may warrant relocating except when the partner has started seeking  professional help, even then you must follow your intuition and divine direction, not pity).
We will continue next week by discussing Effective Communication. This will help minimize the frequency of the need to forgive and can even help convert hurts and pains to a more understanding and sweet relationship.
See you next week.

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