Life & Success Management

There are times in life when it seems you have tried all you know to do but just can't move ahead. You have success stories but they have become stale. You know you should have achieved more or that you are more than your experience makes your life appear to be. What could be wrong? Please read with open mind as we try to run a check few things that could bring stagnancy. CAUSES OF HALTED PROGRESS 1. Pride: manifests in different ways: Not seeing the need to ask God for help, treating subordinates and junior colleagues or people of lower social class as inferior, not seeing the need to say please or thank you, finding it difficult to apologize when you discover you are wrong, oppressing others with your position or with your advantage over then, being unforgiven, disobeying divine instructions, refusal to ask for or receive help, frequently finding fault in superiors or finding it convenient to expose the weakness of superiors instead of helping to make it less obvious, frequen...

Welcome to Life and Success Management. We are continuing on the above topic. Yesterday, I mentioned few "Don'ts of Borrowing". They are by no means exhaustive. Today, let's talk about few things that will make it easier to win the trust of the potential lender and also give you access to greater opportunities in future. They are things that qualify you as credible to borrow in the first place. Please note that the context is largely of informal fund-raising. $ Before you borrow, have a realistic repayment plan. Why? Trust is a very important, endangered species, so to say (especially as touching money matters). Don't miss your opportunity to proof that you can be trusted; write down how you intend to pay back. Is it feasible? It will be a mistake if you are hoping to use the money you lent someone else to repay. It must be from a fairly sure source like regular personal income. $ Find a source that does not need the money back at exactly the period you kn...

Good day! Thanks for joining us on Life and Success Management. Today I have a brief thought on the subject of borrowing. My objective is to intimate you with ideas that make borrowing a productive and less stressful experience for you AND the lender . That is what I call borrowing wisely. Firstly, let us discuss the don'ts of borrowing. DON'TS OF BORROWING # Don't assume you have to borrow. Before you borrow, ask for other options. Always consider the possibility of better alternatives, don't just jump to the option of borrowing because of pride or any other reason. Allow people to be kind to you. Ask for a gift. People prefer to give what they can afford than to lend someone the same. Why? Losing control is a stressful event. Once someone gives you money, he doesn't need to be in control of it again; that becomes your responsibility. But if he lends you the money, he still needs to be in control of what happens next however he is not. That is why peopl...

Welcome! We are discussing today Effective Communication especially between couples. Our purpose is to provide information that will help positive communication and protect relationships from deterioration because communication is key to the success (or failure) of any relationship. Communication must be understood as an EXCHANGE of thoughts verbally or non-verbally. The reason for making any effort to communicate at all is because their is an expectation to be understood and then to get an appropriate response. But, unknown to some people, there are ways you can communicate that you may not be understood or, more painfully, even when you are understood, you may get the response you don't want to get. This is the area we want to address today. Before we go ahead, I just want to take take time out to encourage you, if you are going through a relationship crisis especially at home. I want you to know that the crisis can be over soon. Don't give up on your marriage, you can ...

Welcome to Life and Success Management. This week, we are continuing on Success At Home by discussing one key ingredient: forgiveness. Forgiveness is an act of willingly letting go a hurt caused you or someone you care about by someone, not holding unto a wrong done to you. No matter how kind your spouse is, you will be hurt some times and even very hurt at other times. The mistake to make at such times is to believe the person that caused you pain just revealed his or her real nature (forgetting the love and kindness shown you in the past) or think you are better than the person. We are all work in progress; we are all strong only by the grace of God and WE CAN ALL FORGIVE our spouses if we are willing to. If you think you can’t, God is there to help you, so you can. Forgiveness does not downplay the significance of the hurt; it only reveals how important the relationship is to you. Forgiveness does not mean you should not protect yourself from further hurts by resolving ...

Good day. I am very happy to welcome you to this blog today. As mentioned in the last post, we will try to provide a template for the vision one can have for his family. If one truly believes that all things are possible, then I believe the family is one good place to put that faith to work! Below are few suggestions that can help provide a template for a healthy vision for family success. Socially Healthy Ø   It is a conflict and quarrel-free home Ø   The couple and other members of the family understand each other and relate one to another with understanding Ø   No perceived or obvious need to keep secrets or pretend Ø   There is mutual respect Ø   There is mutual acceptance Ø   There is mutual support and motivation Ø   Members are their own best friends, especially the couple Ø   They are good examples and good neighbours to neighbours and others Spiritually Healthy Ø   The husband is the leader the ...

The home is the place where your true values and worth are revealed. Welcome to Life and Success Management as we begin a series on Success At Home. What you are known for outside your home is important but not as much as what you are inside your home because that is where you are revealed to you and everyone. Success at any level is principle-based. So if you succeed in one area of your life, it means you can succeed in other areas if you are willing to apply success principles in those areas too. The challenge for many is that they have vision for success in isolated areas of their lives and so they just keep succeeding in those areas while other areas suffer. It is important to know that you can have all round success: in relationship with God, your family, career, nation building etc.Thus, today, I challenge you to have a vision for success at the home front. Why do people believe they can achieve whatever they want to and yet they are failing at home and still don't apply ...

It's another day on Life and Success Management ! Thanks for joining us today. Continuing on GET GOD INVOLVED, we are discussing what God will not do for us. This topic is important because there are people who have never dared to ask God for something definite before. They may have 'prayed' before but not the kind that they expect an answer. Others have tried and felt disappointed in God; they say "this prayer stuff doesn't work." God is not an instrument you use when you like and then dump. God is a Person-- the most important Person we all have and need to relate with. We need to understand Him more and more to relate well with Him and enjoy Him in our lives. There are things God won't do. He can if He chooses so but He doesn't and we need to get used to that instead of wishing He will change His mind! As we continue, let me quickly mention that there is a significant difference between trusting God, testing God and being lazy (or foolish some...

Welcome to Life and Success Management .Hope the day has been good? Today, we will continue on Get God Involved by discussing the above topic. "God is so busy," someone said. "Why bother Him with your prayers." Well, God is not complaining, why not involve Him. If the person who made that statement knows God enough, he will also know that 1. God is not as limited in time, wisdom and ability as humans are. He is God and Spirit, not human and flesh; 2. If God is busy, He is busy listening to and replying those who dare to call on Him. That means if you aren't among, you are the one missing out! God is God , that is why He is the only Person that can do what Only God can do ( like listening and responding to our individual prayers at once). God has said, "Call unto me and I will answer you and show you wonderful things that you don't know." (Jeremiah 33:3) God's word, the Bible, states the following, please meditate on them: " Don...

It's another Tuesday on Life and Success Management. Welcome! Today, we will be discussing a very important, often misunderstood topic. Does God have a role in your life and mine? His He even real? If He is, doesn't He have other things to bother about that we should involve Him in our lives? Or is it not just being lazy asking for divine help when we can do something ourselves? There is a God, the only true one Who is almighty, all-knowing and, above all, full of love for every single human being on earth-- including you. In the first place, He should be the central theme and motivation of our lives because non of us-- no matter the circumstances surrounding our conception and delivery-- non of us is a creature of chance; we were created and kept alive for a divine purpose that we get to know as we get closer to God and pay attention to the clues He has graciously placed around us. God wants to be a loving caring Father to us. He is very real and He can speak to (better ...

Life and Success Management: Psychology of Criticism II : Good day and thanks for joining us again on Life and Success Management. Last week we learnt that: Criticisms are neither cons...

Good day and thanks for joining us again on Life and Success Management. Last week we learnt that: Criticisms are neither constructive nor destructive, responses are; Criticisms can be mature or immature;   Immature criticisms are self-centered and does not seek to understand the criticized;   Matured criticism seeks to help and protect someone other than the critic or at least seeks to  understand the criticized view-point Criticizing someone just because you are in physical or emotional pain is immature. We all need to guard ourselves of the fire-for-fire approach to criticism. Your aim, when hurt or embarrassed by criticism is not to hurt the critic. What will you gain by hurting someone who criticized you? Does is it remove the effect of the criticism? No! It only opens doors for more offensive criticism(s) especially when the first was not intended to harm (that is, not immature). Your goal should be to use the criticism to your own advantage a...

Good day! Hope you are taking better decisions and making progress? And hope you are still willing to make more progress? I must apologize for not publishing this post yesterday. I had a sudden change in my program that I am still adapting to. I will keep posts coming by God's grace even if it is sacrificial. You can still check back on Tuesdays but I may publish before then. Today, as mentioned last Tuesday, we will be discussing The Psychology of Criticism . The purpose of the discussion is to let you understand why people criticize because this can help you choose your response to criticism. I am of the opinion that there are no constructive or destructive criticisms, there are only constructive or destructive responses to criticisms. Knowing why people criticize will help you respond constructively to criticism because, as we mentioned last week, you WILL be criticized. Why Do People Criticize? Instead of holding on to the popular believe in constructive or destructiv...